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Have you ever been curious about where inspiration comes from and how some artists seem to have so much of it? Orson Scott Card said, “Everybody walks past a thousand story ideas every day. The good writers are the ones who see five or six of them. Most people don’t see any.” How can we, as individual artists and humans, start engaging with the world around us more creatively? What (and where) are those “thousand story ideas” we pass by without noticing?

Each week on Sunday mornings, Creative / Seminary, a weekly Substack newsletter from me…

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If I had a nickel for every time I was emotionally and spiritually bypassed this year — I’d be richer than J.K. Rowling. And don’t even get me started on her behavior of late. That’s not what this essay is about.

You know you’ve been spiritually bypassed when you hear something like, “It’s all in God’s plan” or “Choose light.” (Tell someone you had a miscarriage and count how many people tell you, “It was meant to be.”) It’s essentially using religion or any sort of pseudo-spiritual dogma (many yogis are experts at this) to scrub away any feelings that…

And other ridiculous (but important) questions to ask during a pandemic

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Here I sit at my desk in front of a small patch of woods. Dogwoods bloom in front of my window. All is serene while I prepare for my 10:15 grad class on Zoom. Meanwhile, downstairs, my kids run amok making repeated shrieking noises , and I feel the tension rise in the house. Once my class ends, I have a few choices: hide in bed, pretend to work to avoid the wildlings or head downstairs and be a well of love.

What exactly is a well of love…

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I’ve been homeschooling my oldest son on and off for three years between struggling to find a good fit for my two boys in the NC public and private school system. Anyway, I’ve been through the homeschool rigamole, and we had actually decided to homeschool over the holiday break this year, before schools were shut down by mandate due to COVID-19.

What a crazy, scary time! Also…what a stressful time for parents. We are finding ourselves worried about the virus and the health of the community and our families. …

Things to do that don’t involve getting drunk

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Do social activities ever feel repetitive? Cocktails compulsory? Are dinner and drinks your to-go? If so, consider salt caving.

I spent my birthday in Asheville, North Carolina this year. It was a “big” one — or at least it ended in a five, so it felt like some kind of punctuation mark. I turned 35 — there, I said it. (Even though saying it doesn’t feel quite right yet.) So, my husband and I booked a hotel, dropped the kids off at the grandparents and drove to the mountains.

We’ve traveled to…

Exploring connections between symbolic evil and female agency

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I once read that the name Lucifer just means “light-bringer,” and referred to the planet Venus in the morning sky. At twilight each day, it fell from the heavens.

In a recent writing workshop, a fellow student mentioned the devil in his piece. While we discussed his essay, I found myself saying, “I want more Satan in here!” There were a few laughs at the absurdity of the claim, but it was otherwise well-received because the theme of the devil is usually intriguing and rich with connotation.

Since I consider myself neither…

The need to control everything is actually a massive waste of energy

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About a year ago, a therapist asked me about a serious eating disorder I had as a teenager. “Why do you think an eating disorder manifested at that time in your life?”

I perked up in my chair, ready to respond. “Control,” I answered, promptly.

“Yes.” She seemed impressed that I had already uncovered that mystery. “Eating disorders can often be about control or a need to regain control.” We moved on.

That manifestation of a need for control — disordered eating — has mostly passed. I eat when I’m hungry; I’ll order anything off a menu. I spent many…

Misha Lazzara

MFA candidate at North Carolina State University. Mother of three human children. Working on a novel. Worshipping sun, moon, mountain and wine bottle.

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